I recently had the privilege of having my son join me at the markets I traded at over the weekend. He wanted to earn some pocket money and jumped at the opportunity. At the end of the day he said, “I didn’t know working is so hard”. For me it was like being in a playground. I was in my element of sharing knowledge and helping people with physical or emotional alignment.
Being at a place like a market one is able to observe people. Many people stay a while so you get to see the roles they glide in and out of depending who they are communicating with. It was interesting to notice how the dynamics of my relationship with my son changed as we both wore different hats when trading commenced. And then the typical characters returned the minute we were driving home.
Knowing your archetypes, or the roles you play, is one way of getting to know yourself on a deeper level. I have experienced first hand how the awareness of my personas helps me to predict and plan for an outcome. I will give you an example. One of my archetypes is the mother and another is the victim child. Both, of course, have pros and cons. When the mother’s expectations are not met a pattern in my past would be to flip to the victim child. To change this I plotted out a preferred route for future situations, ie I wrote down, word for word, what my mother character would say in order to stay in the game and not be bowled out by the victim. The next time I say my victim archetype approaching I scrambled in my memory and called up my ‘mother’s’ script. At first it felt forced, with practice it became smooth and natural. These days my victim child as far quieter, fortunately.
It is empowering to be able to manage your character types instead of them running the show. I have also seen the confidence, awareness and clarity it has given clients who have chosen to gift themselves with archetypal sessions.
Caroline Myss, author of Sacred Contracts aptly states, “Archetypes are the lenses through which we view ourselves and the world around us”.